I’ll start this off one a bit backwards, so apologies in advance for the downer start, but I feel it’s important.
We lost an important person in Toronto radio last week. Dave “Bookie” Bookman passed away at the age of 58 from a brain aneurysm. It hit me harder than I thought it would. I didn’t know Bookie personally, but maybe it was something to do with someone who I grew up listening to growing up passing away being hard to hear. Someone I waved to when the Edge studios were at Dundas, and he waved back. When my sister asked if I knew him, I told him I didn’t, but said something akin to “that’s Bookie, he’s a good guy”. Maybe it’s also hard to see a contemporary pass away at a relatively young age. Maybe it’s because I, like many others, took advantage of the Nu Music Nights at the Horseshoe Tavern, which were always free, and you got to see some of the best indie acts. And sometimes you get lucky and figure out that Billy Talent is playing then, and you lose your voice from singing and screaming so hard and got to attend, to date, the best concert you’ve ever been to. And maybe, just maybe, it’s a bit of the reality that anything can happen, on any given day.
RIP Dave “Bookie” Bookman, thank you for everything.
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I recently had a co-worker decide to quit and head back home. Part of it was that she had been chasing this broadcasting thing for a while, and had been away from home for 7 out of 8 years. She also felt the biological clock ticking, and she needed to see if the relationship she had with someone was going to work. Which for her, meant they had to live together to see if that could make that work first. I felt it was a bit odd. Not that relationships and biological clocks are illogical reasons to leave a job and/or head home, but more so that I was older than her. Maybe it’s because I’m a dude, but I feel there’s still a bit more career chasing/building that I can do before I do a hard stop and just focus on a place/relationship, and push all my focus into that.
I will admit I was thinking of the possibility of doing that (the picking up and moving) before I landed this gig, but at this point, it’s neither here nor there. My focus hasn’t changed from trying to get to my desired destinations and working in my desired field, but I’m currently on the path, so I’m not too worried about those things.
So yeah, career vs family is a tough one, especially if one displaces the other. I don’t really have the proper answer on making it work when they don’t work in unison. I’m a dreamer with my head in the clouds, with a floating belief that everything will work out. I don’t know if that’s the wisest, as putting myself into oddball situations, ejecting from others, and not being able to be fully in others will lead me in the desired directions in the time frame I would like.
But we make our decisions and live with them, and hope that it works out in the end. So far so good, still kicking, and still fighting the good fight. At least that’s what I tell myself, hahaha.